It’s been a wonderful six years of parenting, with its share of ups and
downs and occasional outbursts. Parenting is a challenge and there is no
perfect or correct method. Parents need to be highly flexible in their approach
towards parenting. Each day awaits a new learning and a new surprise.
However, the past Six years of motherhood has taught me some very important life lessons. I would like to share those with you all here.
One Activity at a time:
This is one of the most important lessons Samu
has taught me. Reading, playing, dancing or watching TV, she is completely
engrossed in that one particular activity. She cannot listen to songs and
colour. She says, “Mum-maa disturb hota hai, please song off karo”. I started
following her footsteps. Now whenever I am cooking or doing household chores, I
completely concentrate and give my 100% to the task in hand. This ensures that,
I am not stressed out and also helps me to give my best.
Forgive and forget:
I do shout at my daughter, I even at times
spank her, yet the next moment, she is in my arms, cuddling and kissing me. Unlike
adults, children don’t know to hold grudges, they have a pure heart, which
knows to forgive and forget things. This is what makes them even more special.
We as adults have Ego clashes and we are willing to let go of relationships,
however not ready to forgive.
Try new things:
She keeps on trying new ways to comb her hair,
to write, to play, to keep her toys and her clothes. This is something which
amuses me a lot. Today she might have kept her toys in lower shelf, tomorrow,
it will be in another. I asked her once, “Samu why do you keep shifting your
toys?” “Mum-ma toys ko bore ho jaata hai, same place na, so I shift”, she
replied.
At times, you really need to shift your focus and try out something
different, or do things differently. Maybe you will get different results. |
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Ask questions:
When we sit to study, she has a list of
endless questions and till the time, she is not completely satisfied with the
answers, she will keep bombarding me with her questions. When I ask her to do
something, again there is a nonstop Q&A session.
Every time, I am confused, I do the same. I ask myself questions, and
most of the times, I get the answers.
Not comfortable, just leave:
When I take Samu to birthday parties or
functions, she will only play with children she is comfortable with. The moment
she senses, someone is behaving badly or is being unfair, she will move away
from that person. How simple it is for her, however, we adults, try to please
everyone and at the end remain stressed out.
Be happy for small things:
There are times, when Samu is happy just like
that, no particular reason. A balloon, some colour pencils, her favourite
cartoon, tiny droplets of rain, the sun shine, the flowers…they all make her
smile.
There are so many things to be happy and grateful about. Good health, a
secure job, friends, food to eat and the list is endless. Find happiness in the small things, big things will follow!